Smart Love (?)

I’ve just read an article that was adopted from a book by Les & Leslie Parrot, “Relationship”
It mentioned 7 characteristics of “smart love”, they were:

• Smart love seeks a good compatibility

Differences will show out in every close relationships, but smart love knows eventhough the differences may promote conflicts, relationship must be built on top of equality

• Smart love concerns deeply to values

Your mate will continually giving clues about his/her values, and if you have a smart love, you’ll pay attention to them. Why? Because the values that someone hold onto will determine how the relationship will turn out and how you will be treated by your mate.

• Smart love doesn’t try to change his/her mate

What you see is what you’ll get, and your chances to change it is slim if not none

• Smart love doesn’t try to change his/her self

It is better to be hated for what you are, than to be loved for what you aren’t

• Smart love is not playing around

Games are meant to attract, even manipulate someone else to see you as a person that is not yourself

• Smart love doesn’t runaway from conflict

Smart love made uses of negative words and hurted feelings to have a clear and better understanding of each other

• Smart love knows the most important point
  

Smart love has a standard in building a relationship and able to decide “This is what I can and what I can’t tolerate”

I think they were good characteristics that we should seek in building a long (ever)lasting relationship.

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

[1 Corinthians 13:4-7]

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~ by h4rdw0rk on January 7, 2009.